I bet you have heard that sentence before, from someone close to you who loves you and is meant to be a supportive person in your life. We all know the scenario; You have decided to "be good", drink a little less, eat less cakes and sweets and get rid of a few kilos. Then you tell our partner you don't want dessert tonight and they say 'a little bit won't hurt you' and make you a bowl of ice cream. Or when you are out with your mates and have committed to not drinking alcohol this week and they tell you you've changed and that one won't kill you, and then proceed to buy you a beer.
Does this sound familiar to you?
These people are what we like to call 'Crabs in a Bucket'. If you put a bunch of live crabs in a bucket they won't get out. If one tries to climb up the side, the others will grab it and pull it back down to the rest of them.
Unfortunately, this is what happens when you decide to change your life for the better too. Our closest friends and family who haven't got the best habits and enjoy a glass of wine and a bag of chips after dinner will miss their drinking buddy. They are a little scared that you will become 'better' than them and leave them behind. So it's best you stay down the bucket with them. Where it's safe and everyone eats ice cream and drinks beer together and no one is talking about reducing their carbs and starting to run so they can decrease their risk of heart disease.
At Vision Personal Training, we refer to the people you spend the most time with as your "Circle of Influence". This circle usually consists of a partner, parents, close friends and colleagues and these influences can be good or bad. A typical good part of your circle of influence is a colleague who will always look out for you when someone brings cake into the office and will tell you not to eat it and how it's not worth it. They are supportive of you because you have shared your goals with them, they have an understanding of why you are changing your habits.
A typical bad part of your circle of influence is an old friend who always gets drunk on the weekend and always wants you with him. When you say no and suggest you do something not involving loads of alcohol, he tells you you've changed, that you are boring and that one drink won't hurt you. You end up having more than one drink and staying out all night. You probably haven't shared your goals with them, because they probably wouldn't be interested, would tell you that you're fine, you don't have to lose weight/get fit/tone up. They want you to stay down the bucket with them, where it's nice and comfortable, where you are not challenged to make changes.
Both your colleague and your fiend love you and appreciates you, but only one of them respects you and your goals. This is an incredibly hard part of changing your eating and drinking habits as you sometimes have to separate yourself from your bad circle of influence. It is practically like breaking up with your past. When you decide to take a step towards changing your life forever, this sometimes includes breaking up with some old friends who you realize are not there for your good, but rather their good.
Are you prepared to let go of the past and embrace the future?
This is a huge question to ask yourself, before embarking on the life changing journey it is to eat better and move more (it's that simple). It looks easy on paper and it sound pretty easy when you say it, but believe me, it is simple, but not easy, to change your habits. We all know diets don't work, they are just a quick fix and once the diet is over, you go back where you started. This is because you haven't considered all the other factors in your life that does affect your choices and habits. To truly be ready to change your life, your eating, drinking and exercise habits forever, you need to be ready and set, before you go.
A wise man once said; "If it's to be, it's up to me." You can't rely on anyone else to make better choices for you and you certainly can't listen to the people around you who say 'a little bit won't hurt you'. Because if you want to change your life forever, you need to take action and be responsible for your own choices. No excuses and no blame.
If it sounds a little hard to do on your own and you would like some help, we have a team of compassionate and friendly trainers who will keep you accountable to making the choices you said you would do.
It's simple, but not easy, and it's up to you. So remember sometime a little bit will hurt you.
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