Suppose you are at the specific point in your life where something needs to change. This could be the first time, second, third, fifth, it does not matter, and the urge to change is simply growing like the weeds in your front yard. Eventually you will have to face the problem and take action otherwise you may find yourself 'tangled' and held behind.
For example, let us imagine the need to change is there, however you may not know what you want to change. Maybe you are finding it hard to pin point exactly what needs to change or perhaps there is just no motivation there. So where do we start…
Let us begin with the motivation. I would like for you to
imagine what you would be like in the next 5-10 years, now take it
a step further, and imagine yourself meeting your future
Who and what do you see?
Is this person dressed well, do they smile when they walk up to you, do they smell nice, perhaps they may compliment or comment on your looks, does he or she reach out to shake your hand and introduce themselves.
Do they look healthy, happy, and confident?
Who do you see?
If you answered no to any of these questions then there are areas to work on. This is the exciting part.
In my experience I have learned that we need someone to guide, teach, support and motivate us, there are only a handful of people that can do it all on their own.
Motivation refers to states within the organism that drive behaviour towards some goals. It has three aspects: (a) the driving state, (b) the behaviour aroused and directed by the driving state, and (c) the goal towards which the behaviour is directed.
Now I will explain how to create a motivational approach and take you a step further. Keep in mind that once you have completed this exercise you are no longer lost for motivation or where to start, you simply need to take action!
To begin it will take just 5 minutes of concentration a pen and
Write down 3-5 goals that you would like to achieve in the next 1-2 years (make sure they are S.M.A.R.T.) here is a link to provide you with some guidance on goal setting http://topachievement.com/smart.html
Once completed, choose just one goal, write it on a new page. This is an interesting process that I came across when listening to a Brian Tracey pod cast. What Brian explains is truly fascinating and will take a little thinking.
Underneath your goal, write down 5 ways you can achieve your goal? For example if you want to reduce your body fat and increase your fitness you may write; join a gym, play for a team, research on your recommended calorie intake, seek professional help, swap an old habit.
Now that you have 5, write down another 5. Then go right ahead
and come up with the next 5 and keep going until you get to the
20th "How can I achieve this"
The purpose of this exercise is that it creates a thought process of what you desire to achieve, our brains really begin to struggle and work hard when we get to the 20th process, and the idea behind this is when you do complete this exercise for each of your goals, your 21st idea will be the one that will most likely get you closer to your goal. It will be unique, simple and perhaps challenging, but is that really such a big sacrifice to begin your journey to change, and how motivated would you feel looking down at a list of 20 options to achieve your goal?
Dima Yatsenko*Disclaimer: Individual results vary based on agreed goals. Click here for details.