How strong is your Circle of Influence?*

Monday, 20 June 2016, By Deni Curtis

"But you have to live your life… go on!"


"Oh I could never do that"


"Are you going to be fun tonight?"


"Are you still doing that healthy eating thing?"


Do any of these comments sound familiar? As personal trainers we know too well that clients often have to invest time and energy into ensuring they are not held back or pulled down by the choices, habits and attitudes of people around them.


It is important to assess your circle of influence carefully and honestly. A support network is invaluable, but friends that cannot accept and respect your current goals and lifestyle choices can be detrimental to the progress you are working towards making.


Clients often talk about 'that friend' that makes their current lifestyle choices feel challenging - so it is important to identify if you have 'that friend', so that you can be aware of the way in which you do let them influence you.



A supportive friend doesn't comment on what you are eating. Period. They know you are consciously planning and choosing what you eat and understand you don't need to justify your choices.


'That friend' is competitive with you. She wants to hear about every detail of your workout, right down to how many minutes you spent on each piece of cardio equipment.

If you are training together she will look at the speed on your treadmill and adjust hers accordingly. At the end of a day she will ask "Did you train today?"


A supportive friend organises for you to exercise together because she knows how supportive it can be to have a training buddy. She messages you the night before to encourage you to organise yourself to be ready to meet her to exercise the next day. She doesn't ask you what you did in your workout, she asks you how you feel about your training and if you are confident that you are on track for the week.


'That friend' tells you that you need to get over it when you talk about the changes you would like to make to your health or physical appearance. She brushes these things off and tells you that you are 'fine just the way you are'.


She listens and seeks to understand how you are feeling. She allows you to be vulnerable and honest because she doesn't offer her opinion or judgments - she just takes time to listen.


Often, it is not until you begin your health and fitness journey that you form strong, supportive relationships with people who can understand what you are going through. In our Surry Hills studio we see bonds being formed between clients daily. We recognise the knowing smiles as we all acknowledge that although our health and fitness journeys are completely unique, we relate to each others commitment to be the best that we can be.


Belonging to a community of like minded people can be the support system that you need to ensure you remain motivated and positive about reaching your goals.


Reach out and find that community of people that are willing to take the time to understand your health and fitness goals and why they are important to you. You will be uplifted by the positive energy !

*Disclaimer: Individual results vary based on agreed goals. Click here for details.

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